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Ryan Michler: The Order of Man – Teaching Guys How to Be Masculine Men (AoL 082)

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In today’s world, many would say that a lot of men have lost their masculinity.

That’s why guys like Neil Strauss, Jordan Harbinger, John Eldredge, and Brett McKay are as well known as they are.

They specialize in helping men get better in their lives. However, they each do so in very different ways.

Today’s guest, Ryan Michler, is adding his name to that list with his organization, the Order of Men.

I’m really thrilled to have him on as helping guys step into their own has a special meaning to me.

In fact, it’s one of the reasons I became a Mason. I wanted to join an organization that has been all about developing men as functional parts of their community.

In this session with Ryan, we discuss a number of topics including what inspired him to start Order of Man, how he’s built the group in such a short period of time, and what it might look like to be part of the organization.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • What pulled Ryan into the military? 9:31
  • What got him to eventually start the Order of Man? 11:47
  • Who were some of the initial guys he wanted to have conversations with in his podcast? 17:16
  • How did Ryan move from free creative thought to monetization of Order of Man? 18:50
  • Is there a difference in membership and the curriculum of Order of Man? 21:26
  • What’s the Order of Man Live Event consist of? 23:53
  • How did Ryan get out of letting society tell him what to do? 27:13
  • How has Ryan figured out how to reach people at different levels of technical know how? 33:41
  • How did Ryan start building the Order of Man’s presence on Facebook? 36:15
  • How has the mindshift been for the members of the Order of Man? 43:34
  • What’s something that Ryan does on day 1 to rattle their chains in his masterminds? 45:28
  • Where does the inspiration for his daily posts come from? 46:43
  • What kind of mentorship has Ryan had and do they develop mentorship rings in the Order of Man? 48:25
  • How old is too old to stop trying to become a better man? 54:29
  • What have been Ryan’s challenges in walking the walk? 55:47
  • What’s Ryan looking forward to in 2017? 58:08
  • One thing under $100 that has changed his life? 59:54
  • Something he believed as a 20 year old that he’d tell himself was completely inaccurate? 1:00:15
  • Something all high school students must know? 1:00:43
  • What’s it mean to live a life of abundance? 1:01:04
  • … and MUCH more!

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

  • Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin (Amazon Link)

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

8 Skill Sets Every Man Must Master:

The Importance of Mastery:

Be a Lighthouse:

10 Questions Answered about Ryan’s Beard:

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Social Confidence Mastery

Myke Macapinlac: Helping Shy Guys Succeed in Life via Social Confidence Mastery (AoL 022)

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Being anxious is part of life. And, as we all know, it can be a problem. Ask anyone who’s ever tried to give a speech. Stage fright is definitely a thing. The question is whether you let it control you, or you use it to boost your ability to connect with someone.

Likewise, when we’re dating and meeting new people, anxiety has that ability to get in our heads. What if those people don’t like me? What if I don’t come across as my true self? What if my true self is too weird? What if… what if… what if?

There’s many ways to deal with this anxiety. Many of us learn how to cope with it early in life when making friends. Others, tend to avoid it. Those that tend to avoid it… we say that they’re shy.

Kids (especially teenagers) don’t want to stick out. In their mind, being part of the herd is part of what it is to be popular. If you don’t fit in, then you’re going to be ridiculed for being the odd one out.

When I was growing up, I didn’t fit into any one group. Being the biggest kid in my class AND being a geek, I kinda stuck out. Needless to say, I was picked on quite a bit.

That stuff sticks with you and can have a great affect on who you are later in life. So much so that instead of opening up to the world, you get further into a shell.

Today’s guest, Myke Macapinlac, wants to get guys out of that shell. Being a big kid himself, and not being able to speak English when he first moved to Canada, he was ostracized quite a bit. In fact, he felt it so much that he’d eat his lunch in the bathroom by himself.

Eventually, he felt that life was passing him by and that’s when he started to make a change.

Now he helps other guys make that change.

In today’s talk, I chat with Myke about how he got started, where the idea of the Social Man Project came from, where he gets some of his coaching techniques, and what separates him from other coaches.

SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:

  • How he fell into the coaching arena.
  • When he knew it was time to start his own path.
  • How he landed his first client.
  • How he finds space to do his bootcamps and courses.
  • Where the idea of the Social Man Project (now called Social Confidence Mastery) came from.
  • Where he gets some of his coaching techniques and how those set him apart from other coaches.
  • What are Myke’s 3 cornerstones of his coaching.
  • How to be a Nice Guy without being a pushover.
  • Thoughts on Neil Strauss and his teachings.
  • 4 questions answered on dating issues.
  • …and MUCH more.

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ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:

 

Myke on City TV for the Calgary Stampede in 2014

Cam and Myke discuss how you can create Charisma on Game Quitters:

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Where to Start in Your Search for Health and "Self-Help" Knowledge

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“How Old Would You Be if You Didn’t Know How Old You Wuz?” – Satchel Paige.

More often than not, whenever I have gone to the gym, I see people typically running on treadmills. Some of them are watching TV, others are just listening to their iPod’s while others are reading. When they are reading, many times they’re reading a self help book. Most of the time it’s for health, but other times it’s been for other topics. One time, I was curious about a particular book I saw and struck up a good conversation with the reader. Obviously, I was surprised that she was able to keep a conversation going on the treadmill as well as she did. But what was really astonishing was how we ended up talking about how most men are not interested in self-help. Ultimately we determined that men tend to not pursue self help because they don’t want to show signs of weakness.

I mean, this kind of makes sense because for the most part. Because everyone is in charge of their own lives. However, most of the time people, especially men, find themselves in a state of denial. The problem is that, “He who buries his head in the sand leaves even more open to vulnerability”. Think about it, whenever you see an ostrich putting its head in the sand… it’s still vulnerable, right? It’s not realizing that its far greater at risk now because it’s a.) not moving and b.) it can see the danger now.

Are you an ostrich or are you going to seek help? To acknowledge the problem right away and recognize ones’ vulnerability is not only a powerful means of self-protection, but it’s also showing strength in that you’re realizing that the solution is better than the current situation. Especially if it’s health related as the solution might mean for you to have a longer and more prolific life than not seeking help.

First Steps In Seeking Help

Now that you’ve chosen to seek out help (congrats), where do you start? Well, obviously it depends on what you’re having issues with. Many of us have problems with confidence, general people skills, and all kinds of health issues. These are just a few of the topics, obviously, but it will definitely get you started. However, with so many books out there with “so-called” experts, where do you turn? Well, here’s some criteria:

1.) Read material from people recognized as experts. Don’t put all your faith in someone that hasn’t been declared as an expert by other sources or isn’t highly recommended.

2.) If you have mentors in your life and want to be like them in that aspect of your life, find out what their sources are. Let those be a guide.

3.) Do your own research. Combine what multiple experts say. Draw your own conclusions – not what others tell you the answer is.

4.) Time tends to verify information. Just like bad theories are thrown out over time, so is bad advice. Just like new theories, new advice hasn’t had the time be proven. Self Help books that have stood the test of time (such as “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie which is going on 80 years old) are more often than not still the best practices. Remember that humans really haven’t changed that much for at least 2000 years. Health information changes more often, so make sure you check with newer resources that has older information as its foundation.