Being anxious is part of life. And, as we all know, it can be a problem. Ask anyone who’s ever tried to give a speech. Stage fright is definitely a thing. The question is whether you let it control you, or you use it to boost your ability to connect with someone.
Likewise, when we’re dating and meeting new people, anxiety has that ability to get in our heads. What if those people don’t like me? What if I don’t come across as my true self? What if my true self is too weird? What if… what if… what if?
There’s many ways to deal with this anxiety. Many of us learn how to cope with it early in life when making friends. Others, tend to avoid it. Those that tend to avoid it… we say that they’re shy.
Kids (especially teenagers) don’t want to stick out. In their mind, being part of the herd is part of what it is to be popular. If you don’t fit in, then you’re going to be ridiculed for being the odd one out.
When I was growing up, I didn’t fit into any one group. Being the biggest kid in my class AND being a geek, I kinda stuck out. Needless to say, I was picked on quite a bit.
That stuff sticks with you and can have a great affect on who you are later in life. So much so that instead of opening up to the world, you get further into a shell.
Today’s guest, Myke Macapinlac, wants to get guys out of that shell. Being a big kid himself, and not being able to speak English when he first moved to Canada, he was ostracized quite a bit. In fact, he felt it so much that he’d eat his lunch in the bathroom by himself.
Eventually, he felt that life was passing him by and that’s when he started to make a change.
Now he helps other guys make that change.
In today’s talk, I chat with Myke about how he got started, where the idea of the Social Man Project came from, where he gets some of his coaching techniques, and what separates him from other coaches.
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
- How he fell into the coaching arena.
- When he knew it was time to start his own path.
- How he landed his first client.
- How he finds space to do his bootcamps and courses.
- Where the idea of the Social Man Project (now called Social Confidence Mastery) came from.
- Where he gets some of his coaching techniques and how those set him apart from other coaches.
- What are Myke’s 3 cornerstones of his coaching.
- How to be a Nice Guy without being a pushover.
- Thoughts on Neil Strauss and his teachings.
- 4 questions answered on dating issues.
- …and MUCH more.
ITEMS and PEOPLE MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Social Confidence Mastery
- Cam’s AoL Podcast
- Neil Strauss
- The Alabaster Girl – Zan Perrion (Amazon Link)
- Frank Kern
- Psycho-Cybernetics – Maxwell Maltz (Amazon Link)
- Start with Why – Simon Sinek (Amazon Link)
- Fizzle.co Get to know the secrets of those who went before you in Founder Stories. Click here to get your first 2 weeks FREE!
SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:
Myke on City TV for the Calgary Stampede in 2014
Cam and Myke discuss how you can create Charisma on Game Quitters:
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