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Barbara Ireland: How to Stop Negative Thoughts – What We Can Learn from a Near Death Experience (AoL 079)

Society teaches us to look for the negative in situations. Just about everything that is popular today has some sort of conflict. From TV shows, news, and movies – we’re always looking at what is wrong with the world around us. (Heck, I’m pretty sure that’s how Trump got the nomination and won the election – he used the negative for his benefit.)

It’s very uncommon for people to natively want to look for the good in situations. Mainly because we’re not programmed to be like that.

However, as our guest in this session, Barbara Ireland talks about in this session, having that perspective isn’t very useful if you’re trying to do more than just get by or simply survive.

Just like Clay mentioned in session 78, you’re truly wanting to have a great life, then you’re going to have to stop looking for what’s wrong in every situation.

You need to stop thinking negative thoughts.

In this conversation, Laila and I discover what Barbara learned about negative thoughts and breaking out of them… all thanks to the near death experience she had.

As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!


  • Where did the journey of being an entrepreneur begin for Barbara? 8:27
  • What were her creative influences growing up? 13:11
  • Did she have any mentors growing up? 15:34
  • How she went from being a singer to a writer through having her near death experience? 19:39
  • What made her write her book in the first place? 30:03
  • What are mindloops and her thoughts on positive and negative mentality? 35:07
  • How does she start the process of helping people who are in a funk and become better versions of themselves? 40:54
  • What is delooping? 43:50
  • What are steps of delooping that people tend to struggle with the most? 49:45
  • What are some of Barbara’s techniques in her delooping method? 51:04
  • As an NDE herself, what are Barbara’s impressions of the Netflix show The OA? 1:01:01
  • What are Barbara’s top 3 favorite books? 1:08:50
  • One thing under $100 that changed her life? 1:12:30
  • What was something she believed as a 30 year old and doesn’t today? 1:14:10
  • What is one piece of advice that has changed her mindset the most? 1:15:59
  • Secret to achieving personal freedom? 1:16:24
  • … and MUCH more!

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How to Discuss Politics Without Causing a Fight:

Megan Phelps-Roger on why she left the Westboro Baptist Church:

4 Techniques to Deloop from Negative Thoughts:

Song “At Last” Performed by Barbara Ireland:

Bonus video: Pablo Coelho on CBS Sunday Morning:

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