One of the reasons many people become self employed is because they believe they can have more freedom working for themselves. Whether that’s more time for family or the ability to dictate what they do in a given day – they’re looking for more autonomy.
However, as we get more and more successful, we have a decision to make. Do we want to scale up and bring more onto our team or stay at the level we’re at because that’s our sweet spot?
It’s really hard to fight the urge to scale up – especially if part of the way that you measure success is through an increase in income and the ability to buy bigger and better things.
But what if finances didn’t enter into the equation of success? What if it stayed at what was important to us at the beginning – to do what we want when we want? Not to be pressured by keeping up societal norms – but to spend time with those we care about and/or traveling?
This is the life that today’s guest Jared Latigo has crafted for himself and his family. Listen in as he explains how he got here and more about his life after debt.
Enjoy!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
Where was Jared in his career when he felt like he needed to break out of debt? 9:36
What was it like trying to keep up with a persona of success online that he truly didn’t have yet? 14:43
How has minimalism changed his life? 19:13
How can someone become aware that they’re a slave to their stuff? 22:15
What are Jared’s 3 steps to become debt free? 29:08
How does he keep a life balance with everything that he has going on? 35:08
What kind of habits does he practice to get the opportunities that he’s had? 38:34
What’s Jared looking forward to in 2019? 45:11
Who’s his top 3 favorite influencers? 48:17
Has he been learning anything new that he’s excited to implement? 48:40
What advice does he hear adults give kids that he calls BS on? 49:49
Has there been something under $100 that has changed his life? 51:22
How can someone be a difference maker in their community? 52:35
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I mentioned in the Junto last week that I’ve been struggling with some things since my return from Honduras in late January.
For one, 6 hours after we got back, Maria and I were in a pretty serious car accident. Luckily our ride took the brunt force of the impact – because it might have had much worse results.
Car was pretty much totalled.
Unfortunately, the bad news didn’t stop there.
It wasn’t long until we found out from our vet that our two aging labradors weren’t doing all that great healthwise. One was having seizures while the other one was starting to not eat.
There’s a good chance that the one with the seizures (Sable) has a tumor in her head. We were able to start her on medication. The second one, Sadie, who wasn’t eating – well, apparently, cancer was getting to her too.
More specifically, she had developed liver cancer. I imagine it was already stage 4 by the time we figured out that anything was wrong. When the results came back from her ultrasound, the veterinarian said that it had spread all throughout her body – including possibly her lungs and bladder.
Our hearts dropped. But we were committed to keeping her comfortable in whatever form we could.
After a few weeks of trying to feed her things we thought she’d like, it finally got to a point where we were having to force feed her Ensure by injecting it into her mouth.
Not only was this difficult for us, but Maria and I were pretty sure that it was traumatizing for her.
This couldn’t be comfortable. So it was about this time that we had to make the decision to euthanize her.
Last Friday was her departure day. It’s now Monday. And I’m moving forward without one of the angels that mom left me.
RIP Sadie. We’ll always love you.
4 Ways to Cope with Grief
So, this post could totally stop there. But I don’t want to leave you all on a downer note. Sure, as someone going through grief, I have the right to just lock myself in a room with no contact to the outside world.
I don’t see how that is beneficial to anyone. Personally, doing that too long drives me crazy. I tried it again this weekend by pretty much “Netflixed and chilling” all weekend. I can only do that for so long before losing my mind!
As a creative, I feel it’s necessary to take action to get through my grief. And in fact, it’s through action that I was able to get through the passing of my mom back in 2010-2011.
Of course, I’ve learned a few things since then about how to cope with grief. So here’s a few things that I plan on doing myself or things I know others have done after losing a loved one.
1. Reach Out to Others
We don’t have all the answers. So something you can probably do right now using the same device you’re reading this on is to hop onto online message boards, Facebook groups, or even jump on Meetup to find a support group in your area that you can check in with. Often, another person who has experienced loss is better suited to understand what you’re going through.
That said, if your grief is preventing you from functioning, perhaps you can take it another notch up and seek professional help. You might be suffering from depression and if that’s the case, it’s usually pretty hard to get off that slippery slope on your own.
2. Perform a Good Deed
A simple thing you can do is donate in their name.
When my mom passed, I told the funeral home to donate anything people sent to the local animal shelter. This weekend, Maria and I did the same for Sadie – we contributed to a dog food pantry in her name.
That said, perhaps you want to put a bit of time into it. I know plenty of people who have done a 5k or 10k in memory of a friend. I also have heard of folks who started volunteering in place of their missing friend.
If you lost a pet, maybe it’s time to start caring for other pets. One option is volunteering. Or you can actually become a dog sitter on Rover.
3. Perform a Ritual or Spiritual Ceremony
Depending your own personal beliefs, there are a few different ways to mark the end of your loved one’s life in a special ceremony.
If your friend has been cremated, there’s a few options you can take.
You can go as simple as planting a tree. Tree planting ceremonies are pretty common these days. I think that’s a great idea because in a way, your friend continues to live on through the new tree.
Want something a bit more permanent? Perhaps a headstone might be a better option.
Maybe you’re religious. If so, perhaps you and your loved ones can say a prayer as you scatter ashes in a favorite place. While I haven’t spread ashes myself, I know if I was going to spread my mom’s ashes, I’d do it off of a sand dune near Empire, Michigan.
Here’s a third option that I thought was pretty cool for pets: open their collar. I heard that this allows their spirit to run free. Then take the collar and put it in a place that you see regularly so you don’t forget them – such as where you hang their leashes or your keys.
Finally, you could create a time capsule. Stick all kinds of things in it from them. If it’s a pet, it could be their favorite toys, a stick from their favorite park, or maybe a rock from their favorite walking path. Five or ten years from now when the grief has subsided a bit, you can take it out and reflect on how much they brought to your life.
4. Create Something!
If you’re a creative like me, then perhaps exercising that creativity is what will help you out. For me, writing this post is soothing. Once it’s posted, I know it will be out on the web helping others cope with their grief.
If you’re not the writing type and more of a maker, there’s tons of things you can do! Just off the top of my head, here’s a few things: creating a scrapbook (if you have Google Photos, that will help you organize all the pictures in your phone), a quilt (my mom was a huge fan of quilts), a portrait (had one at my mom’s funeral), or heck – maybe making jewelry or creating a garden is your thing.
Guess it really depends on what you feel comfortable doing… but I’m almost certain that “tributing” whatever you create to your friend will help.
5. Positively Fill the Void Left Behind
Even if you’re on this healing path, there’s always going to be a missing part of you when your loved one moves on. There will be times where you just want to be with them but can’t.
Perhaps the reason they were in your life in the first place was because they filled a void you had before they were in your life.
I know that this was the case with Sadie. Mom got her because she shared a house with our emotionally unavailable cat. From day one, Sadie did a great job of filling up the void I had left.
If you have your own void, perhaps it’s a good idea to consider finding a new friend or companion. Of course this is a very personal decision and when to do so will vary from person to person.
More specifically when it comes to pets, it may be tempting to rush out and get another one.
However, in most cases, it’s best to mourn the previous pet first. Wait until you’re emotionally ready to open your heart and your home to a new friend.
Again, you may want to start by volunteering in your local 4-H dog group, a local shelter, or rescue group. Spending time caring for pets in need is not only great for the animals, but can help you decide if you’re ready to own a new pet.
Action Steps
Thank you guys for dropping in on this post. As we all know, death is one of those certain things and we all deal with loss differently. I hope that these ideas help you move forward in your life after your loss – whether it be a person or a furry friend.
If there’s anything that you’ve heard people do during their grieving period, I’d love to hear about it. As I said, I want this to be a bit of a “internet memorial” for Sadie, so the more good advice the better!
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It’s September 12th again. The day after 9/11. How are you feeling? What’s on the top of your mind? Business plans? Getting out of your day job on time? Lots of things going on, I’m sure.
Let’s slow down a little bit. Let me ask you a question.
Did you have the chance to watch any of the memorial services for 9/11 yesterday? Why or why not?
I did – and here’s what I got to share with you.
Remembering 9/11
Since the World One Trade Center has been finished, I’ve noticed that every year they read the names of the victims of 9/11. They might have been doing it longer than that, but I didn’t realize it because I was too busy. With college and then with work after I graduated.
Why did I watch? I didn’t lose anyone in the tower. Heck, I don’t know if I knew anyone that was affected by it at the time it happened.
So why did I watch? I guess the simple answer is that I wanted to remember. Remember where I was and what was going through our minds at the time.
When I was growing up, before that point, I didn’t know what it was like to be witness of a life changing event.
My mom had always been able to tell me very vividly about her whereabouts for the assassination of JFK. Similarly, she could remember where she was for other “world shattering” events including the Challenger explosion, when she heard of Martin Luther King Jr’s assassination, and others.
While I’m sure everyone here in the United States can remember where they were at in their lives at that point (if they were alive), I know that not everyone gets the chance to reflect on that day. As mentioned, I didn’t for several years.
Remembering 9/12
For most folks, 9/11 isn’t a holiday. Nor is it a celebration. However, I believe that it needs to be remembered and reflected on annually. Not because of the event itself. But what happened the day after.
Just as Texans and the rest of America drove to aid the victims of recent hurricane Harley and the upcoming storm Irma this past week, so did people on 9/12. Local fire and police departments as well as everyday people from all corners of the country went to go help as much as they could.
The acts of 9/11 made us come together and act as one.
In 2009, Glenn Beck created the 9/12 Project to reflect upon those selfless actions and who we were at that point in history. Because it seemed that we had too easily forgotten those times.
It being Glenn and the polarizing person he was at the time (he has since apologized for his actions during that time), I don’t think he was able to reach those that needed to hear the message.
While I feel that his heart was in the right place, I think the 9/12 Project missed the mark for most people.
The Grocery Store Method of Reasoning
However, he did manage to get my attention. My mom followed him quite a bit – however, I tended to focus more on business type stuff at the time.
Upon hearing this message, though, I did start thinking it was necessary to become more involved in my community. I think it was due to this that I eventually became a member of the Freemasons.
However, not everything he said applied to me, and I think this is where a lot of people have hang-ups in today’s world.
Just because someone says something which doesn’t agree with you, it doesn’t mean that other things that they’re talking about are false or that they’re completely unagreeable.
In fact, most people have more things in common than we don’t have – regardless of where they are in life.
Just as if you were getting groceries, it’s your job to NOT take everything you see at face value. Just because something sounds good, doesn’t mean you should include it in your thought process.
On that same note, simply because something might not agree with you, it doesn’t mean it’s not true or good for you (just like broccoli!).
It’s up to us to see the context of where the message is coming from. And what’s great is that the more Truth we know, the easier it is for us to make a decision based on the context AND message.
Finding Truth in the 9/12 Project – Refocusing on the Important Things
So let’s look real quick on what Glenn said about the 9/12 Project. First, he has 9 key principles that we should follow if we were to be a part of the project. Knowing that he’s a pretty spiritual (and religious) dude, I wasn’t surprised to find references to God.
If we take that into context and actually see what he’s saying AND not take it personal (One of the Four Agreements), what can we pull from his message? What the heck is he really saying?
Let’s take a look.
America is good.
Yeah, I’d say so. I mean, again, after seeing us come together for the victims of recent hurricanes – I think we’re good. Now, the government, on the other hand… that’s another story, but I think Americans are good as a people.
I believe in God and He is the center of my life.
So here’s my take on religion – it’s not for everybody. Most people that it’s not for – they say that religious types don’t practice what they preach. I don’t personally know BAD Christians. Do they exist? Sure. But there’s bad versions of every group out there.
I think this is where most stereotypes come from. But, because they exist doesn’t necessarily make them “normal”.
So let’s talk straight normal person to normal person here.
Perhaps Glenn could have said “I have a core set of principles and I act on those principles on a consistent basis. My life is based on those principles.” to make it a little more all inclusive. In that frame, I think many of us would agree that we have core principles which we use to define our lives.
I must always try to be a more honest person than I was yesterday.
Yes, of course. Lying to yourself and others ultimately only screws things up. Truth is pure. While some people might get upset at it, that doesn’t mean it’s any less-true. Big word of advice – start seeking the Truth. Listen to all sides of the story and make up your own mind – not what one particular media source tells you to think.
The Family is sacred. My spouse and I are the ultimate authority, not the government.
This is another of those points that could have worded a bit better. Instead, it could have read “My spouse and I care for and are responsible for the actions, values, and beliefs of our family. Not the government.”
This I agree with because I don’t think it’s the government’s job to make things “fair”. I’ve never seen the government build up any one group. I’ve only seen them tear down others when one group is crying the loudest. That’s the opposite of being fair in my book.
If you break the law you pay the penalty. Justice is blind and no one is above it.
Totally true. There’s also no guarantee that starting points are the same. And what’s ironic, is that I’ve seen more people go from broke to being wealthy, than I’ve seen middle class becoming wealthy. Gary V is a great example – so are a ton of online business folks – AND people I’ve had on the podcast.
I work hard for what I have and I will share it with who I want to. Government cannot force me to be charitable.
Yes – totally agree with this. See above. But I think it’s also our own responsibility to know when to be charitable. That’s not something that society teaches. In fact, I’d say that it teaches the opposite most of the time. Every day people are inundated with the idea that it’s them vs the World. It indirectly promotes the scarcity mindset – not an abundant one.
It is not un-American for me to disagree with authority or to share my personal opinion.
Agree. That’s the whole point of protection of free speech and ability to bear arms. While that allows for some very hate filled rhetoric, it also allows for well intentioned speech at the same time. The reason that we can bear arms is that if Washington ever becomes so removed from the people that it’s us against them (or some other apocalyptic situation), then we have the permission of the founders to have our own militias. If you don’t support Americans keeping firearms, then it comes across that you 100% believe the government is never going to turn on you. Which moves onto…
The government works for me. I do not answer to them, they answer to me.
Yes, 100%. Even when it comes to taxes and other “governmental” stuff. We technically should have the power to determine what we’re being taxed. However, Washington thinks they’re better than us, so therefore, they vote things into place that shouldn’t have happened if they were doing their job in the first place.
12 Values of the 9/12 Project
Honestly, all the values that he put in the list are those that Lewis Howes, Tony Robbins, or someone similar (I can get you a long list if you really want one!) would have said helped them get to where they are today – especially if they’re God fearing folks.
So, I’ve made it a point to make sure that I have these values as much as possible. However, there might have been a little bit of tweak on some for better wording.
After looking at these values, do you believe that anyone who has achieved greatness in their life doesn’t practice them regularly? I mean, when I think of Lewis Howe’s show and the people he’s talked to – all of these words come to mind.
Action Steps
After seeing these principles and values of the 9/12 project, I hope you can understand why I feel I need to respect those that we lost on 9/11. We should also appreciate how we came together to deal with it all. Personally, I feel if I can reconnect to those feelings, it helps keep me anchored to who I see myself as.
Also, it’s especially touching to see some of the kids of these folks read off the victim’s names. Lots of these folks (some near my age) have made their lives better as a contribution to their lost parent, family member, or friend.
I can only think that our true friends and family would want the best for us. And because of that, I think it’s on our shoulders to live up to some certain standards in life. If not those of the 9/12 Project, then something else.
I just think the 9/12 Project is a good place to start. A lot of people can relate to it – even if they don’t care too much for its creator.
What are some key principles and values that you have? Let me know below.
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Society teaches us to look for the negative in situations. Just about everything that is popular today has some sort of conflict. From TV shows, news, and movies – we’re always looking at what is wrong with the world around us. (Heck, I’m pretty sure that’s how Trump got the nomination and won the election – he used the negative for his benefit.)
It’s very uncommon for people to natively want to look for the good in situations. Mainly because we’re not programmed to be like that.
However, as our guest in this session, Barbara Ireland talks about in this session, having that perspective isn’t very useful if you’re trying to do more than just get by or simply survive.
Just like Clay mentioned in session 78, you’re truly wanting to have a great life, then you’re going to have to stop looking for what’s wrong in every situation.
You need to stop thinking negative thoughts.
In this conversation, Laila and I discover what Barbara learned about negative thoughts and breaking out of them… all thanks to the near death experience she had.
As always, thanks for listening, and enjoy the show!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
Where did the journey of being an entrepreneur begin for Barbara? 8:27
What were her creative influences growing up? 13:11
Did she have any mentors growing up? 15:34
How she went from being a singer to a writer through having her near death experience? 19:39
What made her write her book in the first place? 30:03
What are mindloops and her thoughts on positive and negative mentality? 35:07
How does she start the process of helping people who are in a funk and become better versions of themselves? 40:54
What is delooping? 43:50
What are steps of delooping that people tend to struggle with the most? 49:45
What are some of Barbara’s techniques in her delooping method? 51:04
As an NDE herself, what are Barbara’s impressions of the Netflix show The OA? 1:01:01
What are Barbara’s top 3 favorite books? 1:08:50
One thing under $100 that changed her life? 1:12:30
What was something she believed as a 30 year old and doesn’t today? 1:14:10
What is one piece of advice that has changed her mindset the most? 1:15:59
Megan Phelps-Roger on why she left the Westboro Baptist Church:
4 Techniques to Deloop from Negative Thoughts:
Song “At Last” Performed by Barbara Ireland:
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Bonus video: Pablo Coelho on CBS Sunday Morning:
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Today is Election Day 2016. If you’re yet to vote today, vote your conscience.
“But what if I really vehemently despise one candidate and feel that I have to vote for the other major party to help make sure they don’t get in office?”
Well, that’s totally your decision. If you don’t like either major party’s nomination like I did, then it’s ok to vote 3rd party.
Either way, this is quite possibly the last election that the Boomers are going to have candidates in. And that means that a lot of us non-Boomers are going to have to step it up.
That means Gen X’ers just as much as it means Millennials.
So, for this week’s post, I thought it’d be important to look to the future and discuss how Millennials can set themselves up to be leaders in the years to come.
Who are Millennials, Really?
Over this past weekend, I found myself going to the 40th wedding anniversary of my neighbors from my hometown.
40 years – wow. For any marriage to make it that long anymore seems to be almost unusual.
Which is unfortunate.
Personally, I think it’s awesome that they’ve stuck together. So often, anymore, you hear that when the kids leave, the parents end up going their separate ways because they realize that they’re both different people than who they were when they were married.
Especially if they were married in their 20’s. In today’s world, many people aren’t considered real adults until after the age of 25. (I mean, there’s got to be a reason why the Obama administration decided that it would be ok for kids to be able to use their parents’ insurance until the age of 26, right?)
In this couple’s case, despite the fact that he’s a good 20 years older than her, I think a good reason that they have stuck together is that the husband was about as young as you could be in being part of the Greatest Generation. The generation that grew up during World War 2.
Also, I know that the wife’s parents had stuck it out over the years as well. In fact, they were so close that when one passed away, it wasn’t much longer that the other followed.
I had a great aunt and uncle that were the same way. They passed within a year or two of each other.
It’s hard to tell if that affection has rubbed off on younger generations. But one thing is certain, that generation rarely divorced.
Why?
While Millennials don’t understand what the word Socialism means, they reject the idea of it.
Well, maybe because they were in tune with themselves enough to know what they were looking for when they picked a spouse. Or maybe they had principles that didn’t allow them to divorce.
Millennials are Actually Pretty Conservative
Whatever the reason is, most members of the Greatest Generation were pretty conservative in their beliefs compared to their kids and their kids’ kids.
Interestingly enough, us Millennials might behave more like the Greatest Generation than many think. They fought socialism in World War 2 and studies are starting to show that while many Millennials don’t really understand what it is, we don’t like the idea of what it really means either.
I mean, it makes sense. So many of us are embracing simpler lifestyles. Having companies like Apple, Uber, Google, and Tesla around have given us that ability. Can you imagine those companies being run by the government? Ha!
We’re Trained About Participation More than Winning:
When other generations talk about millennials, we’re often referred to those head in the air, good-for-nothings that think they are entitled to things without working for them. They continue to say that we don’t take responsibility for our actions in what we do or do not do.
Many times they’re right.
But here’s the truth – they, our parents and educators, made us this way. They taught us what it meant to be unique and shoot for the stars. That anything was achievable.
But they also rewarded us for putting in very little work. For many of us school was fairly easy – just show up and you’ll get a C. Do the least amount of work you can do and get good at taking tests and you’ll get a higher grade.
For many, sports were even easier. In the past, people got rewarded for winning. We were the first generation where you started hearing about participation trophies. Whether or not you trained hard to actually win or did very little didn’t matter. We got rewarded for just showing up.
Some of Us Learned the Hard Way
College (or the military) was the first real learning curve for many of us. It was the first time that many of us had to learn how to really work hard to move up. But even that has gotten worse as I found out as a graduate instructor (and Maria has found out as a higher ranking soldier).
Whether we were doing something to win it or just to feel good about ourselves, Millennials have learned that participation counts. Limiting our growth potential in the world after graduation has made many buck the system. The difference is how we’ve responded.
Those Millennials that continue to spin their wheels looking for the easy reward are part of the Lost Generation. One book that they might need to read is “Who Moved My Cheese?“.
Those of us who are trying to figure out how to win are part of the next Hero Generation.
The Hero Generation
The Hero Generation is one of four generations that come and go throughout time. The other three being the Artist, Prophet, and Nomad generations. They are responses due to 4 types of events that happen in every cycle called Turnings. I first learned of these turnings when I saw a documentary a year or so ago called Generation Zero, which was released in 2010.
If you want to find out more about the four turnings or their associated archetypes, you can do so in Wikipedia here. If you want to go deeper, the two books that the authors Neil Howe and William Strauss are most well known for are here:
If you want a Crib Notes version, here’s a video for that:
Signs of Heroism
Now, if we really are this Hero Generation, would there not be signs that we’re trying to save this world that is falling apart around us?
I think there is. I think it’s this growing boom of creatives that are starting businesses and sustainable social enterprises.
As I said, Millennials don’t know how to wait to be successful. Those who have played the game to win are going to keep winning.
They are replacing the old employee and non-profit mentality. Both of these mentalities were popular but never sustainable. A company could fire an employee at any time. A non-profit could eventually lose their funding.
In fact, I remember a episode of Home Improvement where they made a joke about Tim’s brother who called himself an entrepreneur.
Most small businesses and social enterprises are designed to be self reliant. This means that no one person can control the livelihood of another.
And it’s also what the AoL Podcast is all about. Finding and talking with those individuals who have made the switch to lead their own career and finding out how they made the leap.
One such Millennial that displays our form of Heroism is Dane Maxwell, who my co-host Daniel and I got to interview in session 56.
Leadership is Learnable
Many of those who have taken this leap are considered experts in their field.
Whether it’s deserved or not, experts are looked at as leaders. This makes sense, though, right? Experts can lead others to the answers they’re looking for. So many times we call them thought leaders.
And what really is leadership?
As defined by John Maxwell, leadership is Influence.
Because of this, he has always said that leadership can be taught. So if you find yourself having problems influencing others, then perhaps it’s time to start learning about influence and leadership. John’s work would be a great place to start.
What Type of Leader are You?
Being an expert or Thought Leader, like John, isn’t the only way to lead people. Maybe you’re not interested in becoming the next guru in a particular field of study. There’s still something that you can lead in.
There’s three other types of leaders:
Courageous Leaders
Inspirational Leaders
Servant Leaders
Courageous Leaders
These are people who set an example by pursuing a vision in the face of considerable opposition and risk. Typically, they’re known to have strong convictions about their mission (purpose), vision (long-term goals), and values (right and wrong). They usually set the example by speaking up for their core beliefs and fight for their values, even when their stand is unpopular.
Many people compare Donald Trump to an anti-Ronald Reagan. While Reagan’s actions usually brought people together towards a common goal, many folks believe that during his campaign, Donald did the exact opposite.
Ronald was an example of an inspirational leader. He promoted change by being able to look forward to the future and help others commit to ideas and ideals.
Yet another example is MLK, Jr.. Like Reagan, he was able to envision a future and unify others behind him for that future.
Servant Leaders
This is the example of leadership that so many of us know and hear about. Usually these are the types of individuals who are discussed on the evening news for going out of their way to do something.
Typically, these folks become leaders by asking “How can I help?” and then following through.
There here have been some really big names over the years that might give you a visual.
Mother Teresa, Oprah with Harpo Inc., and Eleanor Roosevelt’s work in human rights.
Generally these people ask for very little if nothing in return – but, as you can tell, get plenty of publicity.
Who Are You Going to Lead?
Now with all of these examples of leaders, you might be wondering how you can set forth on your own journey of becoming a leader.
It’s actually fairly simple. Ask yourself which of those 4 types truly fit you the most.
For me, as an example, I’ve always seen myself as a teacher. So I’m a natural fit for being a thought leader.
But at the same time, I’ve always thought that I might get into politics somehow, and now that I’m 35 – I feel that I might just have enough experience to start looking at that a bit more seriously.
It’s ok to be more than one of these 4 types – in fact, most leaders are. But you can always tell if someone is better at one than the next.
Action Steps:
Now that we’ve looked at why Millennials are perfect to be leaders, you might be wondering how exactly you’re supposed to figure out what type of leadership role you want to be a part of.
If you have no idea, just go be around extracurricular groups of people that discuss things you have some sort of interest in.
Maybe you’re in a good sized town. If that’s the case, there should be some meetup groups near you that you can attend. If you’re in a small town, then perhaps you can join the local Rotary Club or perhaps get involved with the Masonic Lodge. Many leaders have been involved with both of these during our country’s history.
Once you find something that you think you enjoy being a part of, start applying for leadership roles within that organization. Start low and work your way up – unless you think you’re qualified to start at a higher level.
Other than that, all I have to say is get out there and meet people. If you think you might want to run for political office one day, start small and work your way up there too.
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This week I’m going to be releasing a very special interview of myself and Daniel’s. The guest is Dane Maxwell, formerly known as the guy who has helped numerous people build their own SaaS (Software as a Service) based businesses through a program called “The Foundation”.
If you’re not familiar with Dane, check him out on one of Pat’s “early” podcasts via this link. This interview was a game changer (and still is!) for many online entrepreneurs.
The election process is something that a lot of people take for granted. But in the US, we shouldn’t ever forget how many people have fought for what we have today.
Unfortunately, the powers that are in control in society – especially the media and the federal government – have led many of us to believe we’re only capable of what others say we are.
If you look at both sides of presidential ticket, one side says we need more protection from all the bad things in the world, while the other one says that we need protection from all the challenges that we might face in the world.
Either way you look at it, the Federal Government is trying to tell us we need more of it in our lives.
In return they’ll give us liberty to live a peaceful life and just keep doing what we’re doing.
But is it really so simple?
We’re All Stones Treated as Bricks
I recently heard an analogy about how the world is trying to make us copies of each other. Like we’re being made into bricks to be the infrastructure of this society. We all conform into a certain code of conduct.
And we do. Especially those of us who are products of higher forms of formal education.
It’s what our school system trains us to be. Teach to the test, not the individual.
Sure this is fair treatment, but is it the best treatment?
I don’t think so. Not everyone is the same naturally.
Instead of bricks, we’re more like stones. Some of us are big, some are small. Some have weird angles and yet others are made of different materials.
You can still build with stones… but not as easily as you can with bricks.
It’s easy to understand why working with brick might be more preferable by a craftsman (or in the real world, the top 1% of the top 1%). They want the easiest way to build something that has a strong structure.
But value of the end result isn’t going to be as high as if stones were used.
With bricks, you just place each one on top of each other until you have the form you want and put a roof on it. With stones, you have to strategically think about how each stone fits into the building.
Like Glenn, when I see a stone house, I admire the work that went into it.
Can You Be a Stone once You’ve been Trained as a Brick?
When it comes to people, I believe so. We’re never truly bricks. We’re just treated that way.
That’s really what New Inceptions is all about. Helping people who think they’re bricks “refind” their uniqueness. Their own perfect spot in the world.
When it comes to finding your spot, Dane wants us all to know about our individual worth and value. We are valued for who we are and our contributions to helping others.
You might have heard that he’s becoming a musician to get that message out. Further than he could with The Foundation.
His songs are meant to help people feel loved and appreciated for who they are. Here’s a glimpse:
But yes, it takes a lot of work to find what makes you unique and realize you’re a stone.
Exercising Your Personal Freedom
Here’s the deal. You, like me, or even Dane, are not defined by your past.
We don’t have to always be the person that everyone sees us as.
Perhaps society and your education would make you believe otherwise, but really your future does not rely on who you’ve been or what you currently think of myself.
Heck, just yesterday Maria let me know of a guy who killed himself over the pressures of what was going on in his life. From what I understand, he turned to alcohol and other means of blocking out the pain. And eventually it got to him. You really have to feel for his family and the grief that he caused them.
But yet, I’m sure he felt stuck.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
As Sandra Bellamy said in session 50 of the podcast, you need to embrace your quirkiness. Or as I would simply put it, you need to exercise your personal freedom.
How do you do that?
Well, besides what Sandra suggests, I’d become familiar familiar with the 5 Obstacles of Personal Freedom. Start with health because you can’t really help people if you don’t have the energy to.
With it being October of 2016, I want to make sure you’re aware of the fifth one.
You need to know what liberties are currently granted to you in your country. Essentially these are the rules that you have to play by.
If you’re like me, you’ll want to fight to keep things as free as they are. The more liberties governments gives their people, it’s usually done through taking away something else that we weren’t aware of.
Remember that the Constitution is all about what powers the government has – not what liberties it gives us. The government should work for us, not the other way around.
And currently it’s looking more and more like we’re bricks working for it.
Personal Liberty is the “playing field” that the outside world gives us. Personal Freedom is the freedom you give yourself to be the natural you in that space.
Familiarize yourself with which candidates talk about giving you more freedom. Not necessarily those who talk about “being fair”. Brick makers are usually the ones who talk about strong “education” and treating each other as “equals”.
With the internet, you can educate yourself. Educate yourself to be the best version of you and not what formal education teaches you is “important”.
Also, we shouldn’t judge people by what their demographics are. We should judge them based on their character and their actions – if at all. No one person is inherently better than the next.
Not a person who owns 16 profitable businesses or a person who has a spark of a dream.
Now, get out there and meet some other stones!
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When it comes to our health, Americans are a fickle bunch. Some of us are very into it, and others, like I was, simply don’t even know where to start.
For me personally, health was never a big focus of mine growing up. I only went to a doctor when I was on death’s door. However, my mom, would go all the time. The more she went, however, the more they’d give her meds to deal with whatever issue she was dealing with at the time. I swear, by the time she passed suddenly in 2010, she probably was downing 8 pills daily? I’m sure you know someone like that.
Today, I still don’t go to the doctor regularly. Opting instead to treat myself for any ailments and hoping that I’m eating correctly. For one, I simply don’t want the possibility of them just covering up symptoms of underlying issue. For my mom, they could have simply said, “stop eating sugar” and/or “here are some alternate ideas”. Instead they decided that giving her (and many other Baby Boomers) a pill concoction will be much more welcome.
Secondly, most of the nutrition advice that I see others taking today still says that carbs are ok to eat, sugar is ok in moderation, and that fat is bad. Personally, I don’t subscribe to that info.
Today’s guest is someone that can shine a ton of light on this issue. During the day, David is flying for a major airlines. However, when it’s time to put on his other hat as a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, you can see him making a major push to get out the knowledge he has in preventing ailments. In this session’s interview with David, we talk about his passion in holistic health, how he got into it, what his thought are some of the more popular diets out there, and how someone can embrace holistic health into their lifestyle.
If you’re serious about improving your health and not going through the same treatment that many of our parents and grandparents have gone through, then this chat with David should really benefit you. If you get a lot out of it, be sure to share it with others you care about!
SPECIFICALLY, YOU’LL FIND OUT MORE ABOUT:
How a pilot with an MBA got into Holistic Health.
Why he has a huge passion for holistic health and teaching others about it.
How holistic health differs and compliments traditional western medicine.
How cholesterol actually helps in the healing process.
What actually causes heart disease.
Why people get addicted to carbs.
His thoughts on the paleo diet, ketosis, and the book The China Study.
How someone can embrace holistic health into their lifestyle.
What 3 questions you should ask yourself when seeking to improve your health.
What your choice of words on social media says about your future health.
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SHOW NOTE EXTRAS:
Dr. Robert H. Lustig called Sugar: The Bitter Truth. Totally opened up my eyes. He talks about how bad sugar really is for you and how it’s basically in everything. Find it here:
Dr. Mark Hyman on Sugar and the Only Rules you Need to Eat Healthy:
Most of what David and Dr. Hayman say are similar. However they differ on Milk. David said that it’s good, Mark said it’s bad. Here are two videos talking about milk processing and why you might consider Raw Milk:
A farmer’s perspective on Raw Milk:
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